To be a Master Prospector in network marketing, listening skills are critical. Making a good impression and establishing rapport are key.
I’m reading the book, “17 Secrets of the Master Prospector”, written by John Kalench.
He says that one quality all Master Prospectors share is an insatiable curiosity about the people they meet.
How do you develop that curiosity if you don’t have it naturally? It’s a trait you need to develop.
He told the story about a “listening, not talking” study conducted by a psychologist who wanted to prove his “pet theory” on listening.
The psychologist purchased a first class ticket from New York to Los Angeles.
The experiment: Once on board, he would begin a conversation with the person seated next to him.
The rule for the five hour flight? He would not say a single thing about himself. He only would ask questions of his seatmate.
It went like this: the psychologist took his seat, and without introducing himself, he began asking questions. Question after question, without ever saying anything about himself.
When the plane landed, a team of researchers took the psychologist’s flying companion for an interview.
Two remarkable facts summarized by the researchers?
- The flying companion said the man sitting next to him was absolutely the most interesting person he had ever met in his entire life.
- He didn’t know his name.
Isn’t this a fascinating picture of human nature? And how people interact with one another?
In network marketing, the list of questions you can ask a potential business partner is endless:
- Where do you live? How long have you lived there? Do you like it? Have you always lived there?
- Where do you work? How long have you been there? Do you like it? What would you do if you weren’t working there?
- Do you have a family? How old are your kids? What do they do? What does your spouse do?
- What do you do for fun? Do you travel? Do you travel enough?
But asking the questions is only part of the process. Actually listening to the answer is critical.
How would you rank your listening skills? Does something like this come natural to you? Or does it make you nervous?